Lee's letter to his son in 1861.
...The South, in my opinion, has been aggrieved by the acts of
the North, as you say. I feel the aggression, and am willing to
take every proper step for redress. It is the principle I contend
for, not individual or private benefit. As an American citizen,
I take great pride in my country, her prosperity and institu-
tions, and would defend any State if her rights were invaded.
But I can anticipate no greater calamity for the country than a
dissolution of the Union. It would be an accumulation of all
the evils we complain of, and I am willing to sacrifice every-
thing but honor for its preservation. I hope, therefore, that all
constitutional means will be exhausted before there is a resort
to force. Secession is nothing but revolution. The framers of
our Constitution never exhausted so much labor, wisdom, and
forbearance in its formation, and surrounded it with so many
guards and securities, if it was intended to be broken by every
member of the Confederacy at will. It was intended for “per-
petual union,” so expressed in the preamble, and for the estab-
lishment of a government, not a compact, which can only be
dissolved by revolution, or the consent of all the people in
convention assembled. It is idle to talk of secession. Anarchy
would have been established, and not a government, by Wash-
ington, Hamilton, Jefferson, Madison, and the other patriots
of the Revolution. .... Still, a Union that can only be
maintained by swords and bayonets, and in which strife and
civil war are to take the place of brotherly love and kindness,
has no charm for me. I shall mourn for my country and for the
welfare and progress of mankind. If the Union is dissolved,
and the Government disrupted, I shall return to my native
State and share the miseries of my people, and save in defense
will draw my sword on none.
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