The reason I posed that hypothetical is that I know of a woman who meets that description. I also didn't say anything about major struggles. They just have the normal amount of sexual desire as anyone. It's just pointed towards the same sex.Kinda reads like a trap.
I would advise anyone that has major struggles with sexual sin, lust, porn, etc to not even consider leadership in the church. The struggle will only become more difficult in that leadership position.
If I was an elder at my church (I’m not), I would advise my fellow elders that such a person is a huge risk to be in leadership and should not be allowed to serve in that way, but anyone suggesting they should not be in fellowship I would disagree with.
Unfortunately these situations are often very nuanced and complicated. I am very well acquainted with someone at our church who is a former lesbian. If you are truly interested, sometime I can try to relate more of that situation or perhaps even put you in contact with her. She’s very vocal about what has and is happening as a result of her past decisions. But for now I have to bail due to a packed evening
Seems as if you set up some criteria and then said even though they meet them that they shouldn't be allowed.