I worked for Bud Welch when I was 13 at the Texaco station at 39th and Penn in OKC.
His daughter Julie died in the Murray Bombing. He is a devout Catholic and his son is one of my best friends. As such, Bud was anti-death penalty and was the only Oklahoman pretty much against it for McVeigh. He was hated by many in this state for his stance.
Bud spent probably 10 years traveling the country and the world speaking out against the death penalty. Lectured at many Catholic Universities around the world as well as many other venues. He was on national TV during the whole McVeigh trial, etc…
Bud preached forgiveness.
I lost a family member due to the negligence of another family member. It took me a long time to both forgive that person and god for what happened, but I was never able to get over the terrible pain until I forgave that person for what happened as well as the random life circumstance that caused it. Hate and anger consumes you, absolutely eats you alive and kills you slowly. I know.
Not certain I could have taken Bud’s position, ever. I also posted earlier my feelings on the death penalty, 50/50 on it and the voters and public conscience has a right to decide, and I also expressed the need to take the penalty out of the shadows. McVeigh I thought deserved what he got.
Many states consider a life sentence Justice, many states consider the death penalty Justice. Each state has a right to determine what it wants.
I can believe for many family members that are victims, that capital punishment for the perp does not heal them. For some I hope it does.
The true path to healing IMO, is absolutely the most difficult step and impossible for some. And that is to find god’s grace to forgive them. That does not mean not holding them accountable. I don’t think I could ever forgive someone for intentionally murdering a family member. I would feel the anger and hate, and would want an eye for an eye. For sure.
But I would also be praying to god to give me the power to forgive that individual and to forgive the random life circumstances that lead to that murder. That would not be for the perp, but myself. That would be to stop the anger and hate from ruining my life every day living in misery with the anger and hate, and each day you are slowing dying for it.
Death penalty should be a great deterrent to motivate others to never kill another human being. It should be shown on TV, to gain the greatest deterrent impact.
They might get Justice, but long term peace only comes from within. Stop the murders. Show the public what happens to them if they murder someone if you are going to do it in the State of Oklahoma. It worked in France back in the day.
For all victims I pray for your suffering and loss, I pray you get more than Justice and one day receive god’s Grace that allows you to forgive and put it behind you forever and live a life free from being consumed with hate and anger. I bet few can get there, somehow Bud did.
Sometimes I feel like I witnessed a miracle for him to be able to do that.