Lazy kid?
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Tough love. They need to be hungry a bit. Cold a few nights.
Make them pay for their food and lodging - even if at a discount.
Make them pay for their food and lodging - even if at a discount.
Beat him with socks full of bars of soap in the night.
You're so ugly you could be a modern art masterpiece. What's your name, fat body?
holy jeezus what is that
what is that
what the eff is that private pyle
a jelly doughnut
a jelly doughnut?
What is his personality like? Is he basically a good kid? Does he run for a good while....A few days or a week or whatever..... then have major trouble getting out of bed?
Does he go from being basically normal to depressed then back to normal....
If so he could be bipolar.....I have a friend whose son just was diagnosed with it in the last year. It is not an easy thing to deal with for all involved. Much easier once it is diagnosed and treated.
Does he go from being basically normal to depressed then back to normal....
If so he could be bipolar.....I have a friend whose son just was diagnosed with it in the last year. It is not an easy thing to deal with for all involved. Much easier once it is diagnosed and treated.
Mind your own business possibly? The kid's 19 and on his / her own. Its up to them to find their own way eventually. Stumble around with minimum wage jobs for a few year until they either get motivate to better themselves or not. I swear this is half the kids in America at that age. If its not you kid why is it even any of your business? Not your problem.
The last thing I would recommend is pressuring someone to join the military. The military isn't a half way house for wayward kids. It requires commitment. If they can't hold a minimum wage job for more then a month they aren't going to make it in the military.
I would mind my own business but was asked my opinion. Had no clue honestly so I asked for feedback here. Not like I woke up wanting to deal with this crap. However I'll make sure I tell my buddy to keep his problems to himself, great advice.
Don't take that personally I just found there not much you can do motivate the unmotivated. They have to work it out themselves. I have a niece who just turn 30 and is working a minimum wage security job. She went to OSU straight out of high school with Aunt (her great aunt) picking up whole cost. She proceeded to go through four different majors none of which would remotely land her a job upon graduation and flunk out after two years then spent a decade to complete an associates degree for TJC all the while sponging off her parents and aunt while going for minimum wage job to minimum wage job. It pissed me off that she probably blew $100K of someone else money and still has nothing to show for it but I gave up even mentioning it to my brother. There's nothing you can go until they get tired of living like a bum. Only recently after her cash cow died has she actually held a job steadily for the past three years or so. Didn't mean to sound harsh just speaking from experience there is no magic solution.
I will say this the worse thing you can do is support them financially and keep letting them move back home.
They will never mature as long as they live with and off mommy and daddy.
Give the kid 6 months to get out. During the 6 months help them find a place to live. Find a roommate. Make sure they can balance a checkbook. Once they have found a place to live male sure they check on what utilities cost.
Once they have to live with the responsibilities of life they will begin the process of maturing as an adult.
Being at home with mommy cooking and doing your laundry while you sit and play video games all day makes it impossible to mature or even have the motivation to leave.
Give the kid 6 months to get out. During the 6 months help them find a place to live. Find a roommate. Make sure they can balance a checkbook. Once they have found a place to live male sure they check on what utilities cost.
Once they have to live with the responsibilities of life they will begin the process of maturing as an adult.
Being at home with mommy cooking and doing your laundry while you sit and play video games all day makes it impossible to mature or even have the motivation to leave.
I personally think this is a deeply rooted psychological problem for some people. It can't be 'normal' to not desire happiness and success in life.
I have a cousin that fits this description. He's 45 and has bounced from low paying job to low paying job all his life with a few, lengthy jobless gaps in between. He's fairly intelligent and finished college but has never pursued a successful career, a family or home ownership.
He moved back in with his parents three years ago (after living on the East Coast for years) and they all seem happy as a clam. He's currently working as an $11-an-hour delivery driver. We had a good talk a few weeks ago and he said pretty much anyone he's ever known from his early days (high school, college, etc.) has pretty much vanished and never returns his texts. I asked why and he said 'don't know, I guess people think I'm a bad influence on their kids'.
One thing I do find fascinating, he ALWAYS has an interesting girlfriend and never dates 'trashy' girls. This guy somehow always lands professional, educated women. Blows my mind. He's a real life George Costanza: chubby, bald, living at home....and always somehow getting laid. Maybe he's Cosmo Kramer.
I have a cousin that fits this description. He's 45 and has bounced from low paying job to low paying job all his life with a few, lengthy jobless gaps in between. He's fairly intelligent and finished college but has never pursued a successful career, a family or home ownership.
He moved back in with his parents three years ago (after living on the East Coast for years) and they all seem happy as a clam. He's currently working as an $11-an-hour delivery driver. We had a good talk a few weeks ago and he said pretty much anyone he's ever known from his early days (high school, college, etc.) has pretty much vanished and never returns his texts. I asked why and he said 'don't know, I guess people think I'm a bad influence on their kids'.
One thing I do find fascinating, he ALWAYS has an interesting girlfriend and never dates 'trashy' girls. This guy somehow always lands professional, educated women. Blows my mind. He's a real life George Costanza: chubby, bald, living at home....and always somehow getting laid. Maybe he's Cosmo Kramer.
In my amateur and uneducated opinion, he has found out how to obtain much of what he wants out of life in spite of any shortcomings.
As long as his MO with the ladies maintains status quo, he's unlikely to change anything else.
Again, my amateur and uneducated opinion; likely not worth the time it took you to read it.
I don't really see anything wrong with this as long as he not taking advantage of anyone and hasn't had a family or kids where's he's abandoned his responsibility. Some people prefer to live an non materialistic life. I'm not saying everyone needs to be career driven, make as much money as you can, have two kids and a big house. Just be responsible for yourself. If he moved back in with his aging parents that might be the best thing he can do for all involved.
