Don’t kill my dog

[Inky29]

Well BJ knows what I’m going through and I’ve pretty much come to the decision to put my dog down. Definitely think it’s the right call, she’s not eating anymore and with her kidney numbers as bad as they are I’m amazed she’s still able to pee. Anyways I walk into the living room to my daughter balling and holding my dog begging me not to kill her dog. This is one of the worst things I’ve had to do. Any advice? I don’t need the logic, I know it’s best for her. Im just curious how to deal with a kid blaming you for the dog’s death?

 

[Rdcldad]

sorry you have this situation to deal with

you don’t need the logic but your daughter does

her trying to make sense of impending loss leaves you with the messy end of the stick

i would diffuse by bringing religion into the life cycle and faith in god if you are into religion

again sorry for your situation

 

[Inky29]

Thanks. That’s been the route we are taking.

This sucks but this too shall pass.

Going to start drinking.

 

[The Duke]

We went through this a few months ago with 1 of our 2 dogs (brother / sister)...the male was in miserable shape and as much as it hurt we knew his time was near. We prepared the kids (I do believe God’s creatures go to heaven), reinforced to our kids we had done everything we could (which we had).

We decided to let him go one particular day when he was miserable. And although it wasn’t planned the kids were in school so we had to break the news to them afterwards.

It was rough and our daughter was very upset she didn’t say goodbye but I had made a point of having her say bye to him that morning on the way to the bus.

It’s really tough, tougher on my wife and I than we had expected...I don’t envy you. She still includes him in her nightly prayers and I know we will see him again.

 

[JonnyVito]

When I put my first dog down she had lung cancer that spread into the nervous system and I beat myself up for a year. Your doing the right thing and she will forgive you one day. I wish they would all just go peacefully in the night.

 

[xplor58]

Get the poem the rainbow bridge. It may help comfort your daughter...... And I maybe all of you.

https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm

 

[Been Jammin]

Focus on the difference between how she is now and how she was a year ago. Try to get your daughter to really think about and remember the dog's energy level, attitude, appetite, personality, of 1 year ago. Emphasize that she can get back to that after she crosses over the rainbow bridge. You and your daughter have one last chance to give the dog a gift.

 

[OrangePhish]

My heart hurts for you. When I had to put mine down several years ago I was overwhelmed with guilt that maybe I didn't do everything I could even though I had spent several thousand dollars due to her health condition. My brother, whom is a vet, called me and his words helped alleviate the guilt I was feeling (not necessarily the sadness, but definitely the guilt). Basically what he said was 'quality of life'. She was in pain and miserable and her quality of life and joy just was not there anymore. I don't know if your children are old enough to understand, but maybe it will help.

 

[EvilPOKES]

My parents put one of their old boys down just this morning. It was a tough morning to keep the tears away at my office. I feel your pain and I hope you are comforted in knowing that your fur child is going to a better, more comfortable place.

As for explaining the situation with your daughter, I would just be straight up and honest about the situation. The dog is hanging on by a thread with the deteriorating health. The happiness and quality of life is at a struggle and it is what is best for the dog and family.

 

[Inky29]

I just want to say how great Been Jammin has been as a friend during all this. He had his staff have been great to me and I live on the other side of town and they’ve never met my dog. Also Clayton’s wife up in Cushing have been great to me. They’ve really helped me come to a peaceful place with all of this.

 

[Been Jammin]

I just want to say how great Been Jammin has been as a friend during all this. He had his staff have been great to me and I live on the other side of town and they’ve never met my dog. Also Clayton’s wife up in Cushing have been great to me. They’ve really helped me come to a peaceful place with all of this.

Stop. You are quickly ruining my reputatation as an asshole.

 

[JimmyBob]

Stop. You are quickly ruining my reputatation as an asshole.

Lol! Get the hell out of this thread and go to 24/7 now!

 

[JimmyBob]

Get the poem the rainbow bridge. It may help comfort your daughter...... And I maybe all of you.

https://www.rainbowsbridge.com/Poem.htm

Deserves a bump; it doesn't ease the pain, but offers so much hope!

 

[100TonsofOrangeFury]

Stop. You are quickly ruining my reputatation as an asshole.

Not sure you really need to worry about that.

 

[Inky29]

Tomorrow is the day. Long night ahead.

 

[JimmyBob]

Tomorrow is the day. Long night ahead.

IMHO, there is nothing worse than having to put a pet down because they don't understand or "get it". Peace and prayers to you; just remember The Rainbow Bridge.

 

[Been Jammin]

Tomorrow is the day. Long night ahead.

 

[Inky29]

You guys are great. Passed along the poem to my daughter about 2:30 last night. Finally calmed her down. Long night.

Thanks again for everyone’s kind words.

 

[ctrawick]

Sorry you and the family are all going through this. It sucks.

 

[Football_Goddess]

Inky--I'm tearing up knowing exactly what you and your family are going through. Remind your daughter that ending the suffering of her best friend is ultimately the last act of love she can give him. This is the most awful part of being a pet owner. We outlive them--not just by a little, but often by a LOT. It's been almost three years since I had to put the most awesome cat I've ever known to sleep, but it was necessary and kind and humane. And I still miss him like crazy. Peace to you and your daughter today.

 

[pcaggie]

Inky,

Sorry for what you are having to go through. I married into a Pug that I absolutely loved, and luckily he made the decision for us and passed away at 15 1/2. Still the saddest day of my life outside of losing my mother. He was my buddy. I am tearing up reading this thread. I told my wife we would never get another one...6 weeks later we had a mini Aussie. A year after that, a Beagle. Farley, the pug is in his urn on our bookshelf. And I swear that he is reincarnated as the Beagle. So, for all of the rambling, I guess what I am trying to say is this...the hurt? It hurts. But the years of love and laughter with them is worth it in hindsight. Prayers to you and your family. And God bless the good puppy dog.

 

[Inky29]

As you can tell by the late hour of my posting that the mourning by my daughter is going well. We just got to the point of her asking if I think she’s made at us for putting her down and not getting her a kidney transplant. I told her if she wasn’t mad at her for making her play dress up all those times she’s not mad that we made all the pain go away. Maybe if she had a message board where she could post her feelings like I do she might feel better.

 

[OSUIvan]

As you can tell by the late hour of my posting that the mourning by my daughter is going well. We just got to the point of her asking if I think she’s made at us for putting her down and not getting her a kidney transplant. I told her if she wasn’t mad at her for making her play dress up all those times she’s not mad that we made all the pain go away. Maybe if she had a message board where she could post her feelings like I do she might feel better.

How old is she? Maybe a journal would be helpful?